For instance, if a guy says something like “I like you so much” or whatever during the early phases, he very well might mean it, but he also wants to see how you’ll react.
Specifically, he’s checking to see if you’ll say that you feel the same way.
It can be helpful to look at the initial period of dating as it’s own phase with its own specific qualities.
MORE: Exactly Why Men Withdraw From Relationships For example, in the beginning, both of you might feel a lot of excitement and also an undercurrent of fearful restlessness.
The guy, if he hasn’t already, starts talking about how he doesn’t want to be in a relationship for some reason.
The fear is rooted in insecurities: What if they don’t like me as much as I like them?He does all sorts of things to woo her and win her over, but simultaneously, he (for whatever reason) does not want to be in an exclusive relationship.So as soon as the woman declares that she really likes him, she assumes it means that they’re headed towards a relationship.What I am saying is that in the beginning phase of the relationship, it’s common for one or both people to have some amount of insecurity and want to go out of their way to make sure the other person really likes them before they let their guard down.So one of the ways they might see if you like them is to do and say anything they can think of that they think you would like. You would want the other person you’re with to feel secure with you, so that they can let their guard down and be their true day-to-day self (without all the added performances to make you like them).